Love in the Time of Corona

In a quick amount of time corona has grown from being your spring break beer of choice to a worldwide concern. Officials are calling for us all to practice “social distancing” to prevent the spread of Corona Virus and COVID19. There are so many aspects of our lives that are being impacted including work, travel and yes even dating. “Social distancing” is the opposite of what we normally consider to be the process involved in dating and meeting someone we can connect with. What if we can redesign dating so that it can be health promoting for you, society and still build connections? @gettyimages Continue reading

Trump or Dump

The date is going so well, lots of laughter, flirting, you can’t believe how well it’s going. You walk back to your cars and for the first time you notice his truck as a “Nobama” and companion NRA bumper sticker. You’re instantly disgusted. He looks over at your Prius to see your “I’m with Her” next to the “Peace, Love, Vegan” sticker. The disgust is mutual. What happened, I thought I knew this person?! Date over.

Are political views the new deal breaker?

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You’re Awesome

Happy 2016 everyone! I was reviewing the year myself and reading my New Years blog for 2015 last year ( New Years 2015 ) which I still think has some good strategies for getting focussed on your goals and maintaining motivation.

Looking back there is one thing I wanted to add about new years resolutions and setting goals: I don’t think new years is always about changing yourself and focussing on what you don’t have but highlighting your strengths and what makes you a unique person.

Here are 5 steps to harnessing your strengths.

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Matchmaking in a Modern World

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Every September in Ireland around 40,000 people flock to Lisdonvarna, a small village in Clare with  the hopes of finding love or just enjoying the craic at Lisdonvarna Matchmaking Festival. This tradition dates back 150 years where a month long calendar of music and festivities take place. I found myself in a colourful hotel, above the Matchmaker Bar, surrounded by hearts, cupids, and plenty of drunk people for the weekend. Continue reading

Modern Romance: Rap artists, sexting, and soulmates

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So here is my promised book review of “Modern Romance” by Aziz Ansari. This book is amazing in so many ways. First of all, Aziz is one of my favourite stand-up comedians and there is something about the combination of romance and comedy that goes so well (note- the book “He’s not that into you” is by Greg Behrendt a famous stand-up comedian). This book is a quick read and filled with funny anecdotes, personal stories, and shout-outs to various rap artists (Flava Flav!).

This book does not really belong in the dating advice or self-help section but is more a book that sets the context for dating. It is written for both men and women, and predominantly focuses on straight middle class relationships. I have to give Aziz credit, he does his homework. He has co-written the book with Eric Klinenberg, professor of sociology at New York University, interviewed hundreds of people and conducted focus groups across five different countries (Japan, UK, USA, Buenos Aires, France). Continue reading

Do men like funny women?

I was on 96fm in Cork this week chatting about the topic: “Do men like funny women?” The discussion was inspired by a research study done at the University of Miami which asked a series of questions to 80 heterosexual students about how they judge sense of humour when looking for a partner. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/11461327/Do-men-really-have-a-problem-with-witty-women.html

The results showed that women ranked sense of humour in a partner as more important than men. The radio discussion then jumped to conclusion that men don’t like funny women and are intimidated by them.

I would have to disagree.

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50 Shades of Black and White

I went to see 50 Shades of Grey this weekend… I know your respect for me is gone. It’s for work I swear! I had to see what all the hype was about, and the lead was Irish so what can I say?

The thing that stood out the most for me (despite his collection of cattails) was how candid and authentic Christian Grey was and how despite this Anna still believed he could change. Even to start the movie he is completely honest with her, saying he doesn’t “sleep over”, he “doesn’t make love”, he doesn’t do “relationships” or “romance”. I mean come on girl, he is being so clear. It’s not grey, it’s black and white!

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Valentine’s Day: Yay or Yuck?

Is it just me or is Valentine’s Day just exploding this year? Maybe it’s all the talk around 50 Shades of Grey, maybe it’s consumerism gone wild, or maybe just maybe are people more romantic this year?

There seem to be a large variety of reactions to a simple holiday- some people love it and some people view it as their arch nemesis. Valentine’s Day is just a day, what is interesting to me is not the day itself but the reactions people have to the day and what it says about them.

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