Trump or Dump

The date is going so well, lots of laughter, flirting, you can’t believe how well it’s going. You walk back to your cars and for the first time you notice his truck as a “Nobama” and companion NRA bumper sticker. You’re instantly disgusted. He looks over at your Prius to see your “I’m with Her” next to the “Peace, Love, Vegan” sticker. The disgust is mutual. What happened, I thought I knew this person?! Date over.

Are political views the new deal breaker?

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You’re Awesome

Happy 2016 everyone! I was reviewing the year myself and reading my New Years blog for 2015 last year ( New Years 2015 ) which I still think has some good strategies for getting focussed on your goals and maintaining motivation.

Looking back there is one thing I wanted to add about new years resolutions and setting goals: I don’t think new years is always about changing yourself and focussing on what you don’t have but highlighting your strengths and what makes you a unique person.

Here are 5 steps to harnessing your strengths.

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Matchmaking in a Modern World

The place for love

Every September in Ireland around 40,000 people flock to Lisdonvarna, a small village in Clare with  the hopes of finding love or just enjoying the craic at Lisdonvarna Matchmaking Festival. This tradition dates back 150 years where a month long calendar of music and festivities take place. I found myself in a colourful hotel, above the Matchmaker Bar, surrounded by hearts, cupids, and plenty of drunk people for the weekend. Continue reading

Modern Romance: Rap artists, sexting, and soulmates


So here is my promised book review of “Modern Romance” by Aziz Ansari. This book is amazing in so many ways. First of all, Aziz is one of my favourite stand-up comedians and there is something about the combination of romance and comedy that goes so well (note- the book “He’s not that into you” is by Greg Behrendt a famous stand-up comedian). This book is a quick read and filled with funny anecdotes, personal stories, and shout-outs to various rap artists (Flava Flav!).

This book does not really belong in the dating advice or self-help section but is more a book that sets the context for dating. It is written for both men and women, and predominantly focuses on straight middle class relationships. I have to give Aziz credit, he does his homework. He has co-written the book with Eric Klinenberg, professor of sociology at New York University, interviewed hundreds of people and conducted focus groups across five different countries (Japan, UK, USA, Buenos Aires, France). Continue reading

Do men like funny women?

I was on 96fm in Cork this week chatting about the topic: “Do men like funny women?” The discussion was inspired by a research study done at the University of Miami which asked a series of questions to 80 heterosexual students about how they judge sense of humour when looking for a partner.

The results showed that women ranked sense of humour in a partner as more important than men. The radio discussion then jumped to conclusion that men don’t like funny women and are intimidated by them.

I would have to disagree.

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