50 Shades of Black and White

I went to see 50 Shades of Grey this weekend… I know your respect for me is gone. It’s for work I swear! I had to see what all the hype was about, and the lead was Irish so what can I say?

The thing that stood out the most for me (despite his collection of cattails) was how candid and authentic Christian Grey was and how despite this Anna still believed he could change. Even to start the movie he is completely honest with her, saying he doesn’t “sleep over”, he “doesn’t make love”, he doesn’t do “relationships” or “romance”. I mean come on girl, he is being so clear. It’s not grey, it’s black and white!

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Valentine’s Day: Yay or Yuck?

Is it just me or is Valentine’s Day just exploding this year? Maybe it’s all the talk around 50 Shades of Grey, maybe it’s consumerism gone wild, or maybe just maybe are people more romantic this year?

There seem to be a large variety of reactions to a simple holiday- some people love it and some people view it as their arch nemesis. Valentine’s Day is just a day, what is interesting to me is not the day itself but the reactions people have to the day and what it says about them.

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New Year, New Dating Strategy

I’m not a big New Year’s resolution type of person, but I do believe that we should all take time to reflect on our lives and take stock of where we are, what’s working, what’s not working and determine how to move forward and new year can provide a great opportunity to do this. Our New Year’s resolutions often fail because we didn’t set realistic goals, devise and revise a reasonable plan to carry them out, and maintain motivation.


One of your New Year resolutions might be “to meet someone”- ok well how are you going to do this? Saying that you are going to meet someone is very outside of your control. You need to determine the actions and steps you will take to accomplish this. The first step to meeting someone is probably going to be to “meet a lot of someones”!

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First Date Diva

First Date

As online dating is on the rise, dare I say the norm, you are more likely than ever to go on first dates with someone you have never met in person. This increase of blind dates (or “blind meetings”) can leave you feeling anxious or awkward about what to do or how to act with a potential stranger/lover. In this blog I’m going to address how to make your first meeting memorable and let your best self shine…while also addressing an escape route if necessary!

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Who should plan the date?

In an era of modern technology and so many choices out there, planning a date can often be confusing and left to the last minute, leading us to the dreaded exchange of “What do you want to do?” “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”

When men are vague or unclear about what to do on a date, it frustrates women to no end but interestingly enough women are jumping in and planning the date. Women complain that men aren’t assertive enough and take the lead with dating but start instantly planning the date. Why are women planning the dates? Do women think men are incapable of using the internet or asking a friend where to take them? Are we getting impatient?

Women are amazing planners, multitaskers, and organizers. While he is texting you about where to meet up, you are probably online looking up “best cocktail bar” in your area and sending him websites, and emailing about reservations..Just stop. Stop doing everything and leave some space for a man to follow through with asking you out. If he’s the one that asked you out in the first place, give him a little time and space before you become the concierge of dating.

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Yogi dating and the art of letting go

I have been practicing yoga for about 10 years and one thing that my yoga teacher always emphasized was that you have to bring yoga out of the studio and into your everyday life. How can the principles of yoga be applied to our love life?

For me, yoga has been about letting go of control and being present in the moment.

Dating in a modern world gives us so many options and avenues to find love…online dating, speed dating, matchmaking, etc. In a way there are so many ways to take action and improve our love life that we might begin to think we have control over the outcome of our efforts. This perception of control can lead to frustration when the outcome isn’t what is expected.
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Why you should date a shorter man

I’m having a cup of coffee with a friend the other day and she says:

Friend: “Did I tell you about that short guy I’m dating?”

Me: “Wait, how tall is he?”

Friend: “5’ll”

Me: “How tall are you?”

Friend: “5’11”

Me: “He’s not short, he’s your height”

When I ask a women what type of guy she likes, more times than not in her top three characteristics she will say “tall”. Why is height our top priority?

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